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We didn't have an answer for that. But I've been thinking.
First off, we're lucky, we do get along well. Somehow we're just generally in the same grove and there are few conflicts. So the bigger question is how do we handle problems, or what do we do when we're annoyed with each other?
Working together on the trail, when it was hot and dusty, gave me some time to think. I think it boils down to timing, an appreciation of possible consequences, and the ability to give the other person some leeway. In other words it is being together so much that allows us to get along so well. It's timing...and knowing...and using both of them together.
Take, for instance, S.D.'s habit of using the McLeod to push the rocks into a berm on the side
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Get one, they're great!
Later in the day, as our moods and tolerances lower, I'll make a comment, hoping it's a hint, about how the last trail crew piled the rocks on the side. "Looks at this berm" I'll cleverly say, "that last crew just created an canal for the summer rains to run down and erode everything." Meanwhile S.D. wll offer to clean all the waterbars for me. We're getting a little too tired to let it ride, but still thoughtful enough to kindly broach the subject of our annoyances.
By the time the sun is beating down and the wind is blowing dust up our noses we could be more annoyed than ever but know that ours moods might be too foul to bring up the subject in a constructive manner. Now when I notice him clearing my water bars, it's hard not to comment, but hopefully I manage some restraint.
Also being together all the time means we don't have to ask that dreaded couple question "how was your day?". We were together when he dropped a huge rock on his toe at 10:20, and then I wacked myself with the McLeod at 2:00. That having happened, I know at 2:30, it's probably not a good time to mention the pile of rocks left in the middle of the trail.
Conversely, if it's been an especially bad day, we know without asking that it's a good day to say or do something nice for the other. Take for instance last Wednesday. Sunny, 82 blistering degrees, 4% humidity and we were on the trail, chainsawing juniper, oaks, cholla cactus and sotol. Well, we were supposed to be. After lugging the chainsaw, and the gas half way down the trail (1.5 miles) the bleeping thing stopped working. We had to lug the thing all the way back and....look forward to doing it again. Oh and we ran out of water. We went through 6 liters in 5 hours. We both knew it was so bad, it was time to be especially good to each other. We cracked a few jokes and when we got home, brought each other big glasses of water, cool bottles of beer and made ourselves an especially nice dinner.
On the other hand, if it's been a beautiful day, we've watched a pair of red tail hawks ride the
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SD says: She's lucky I'm so easy going.